By Suzie Doscher
Being subjected to passive aggressive behaviour from anybody -- be this in a shop, at home, in school or at work -- can be not only confusing, but also hurtful and uncomfortable.
Frequently this behaviour and manner of speaking come from someone who has not learned how to express emotions, let alone negative ones. Instead of being in touch with their feelings, they redirect these emotions in a passive aggressive manner. Usually the person is not even aware of it.
Obviously this is a generalization and in no way should be thought of as the truth for everybody who behaves passive aggressively. Sometimes people are just having a bad day and letting it out with inconsiderate and disrespectful manners.
Common characteristics of passive aggressive people: ...click 'read more'
By Suzie Doscher
Instead of focusing on classic New Year's Resolutions:
Change your thinking in order to invest your time and energy to grow and develop yourself. Have a major impact on your home life as well as your professional life, no matter what your position is -- boss, leader or team member -- with some personal development.
Many of your desired 'resolutions' will be resolved with this approach.
In fact, with time all of the habits you wish to change will be replaced with habits that leave you calm, satisfied, fulfilled, stimulated, energized and healthy. You will feel better, look better and be a better person. You can 'grow into your skin' - be the person you know you are. ...Click 'read more'
Good advice from Laura Berman Fortgang
I have no tax advice for you. Nothing you should do to your lawn before the next season hits. Nor do I have anything to say about your frequent flier miles or doctor visits and insurance deductibles.
I DO however, have three must-do’s that will help you walk into a new year with more energy, peace, and hope.
REPAIR a Relationship
Nobody is perfect. Maybe there is someone you are on the outs with or someone who is holding a grudge against you. There is no better time than the present to address it. Think of the possibilities of a new year without the stress or aggravation of this energy drain.
Perhaps there is such a relationship, but a heart to heart is just not possible. In that case, forgiveness is the only option. Whether you can speak to the person about it or not, work on forgiving what they did to you. If they are mad about something you did, forgive them for withholding their friendship, love, or approval of you.
People behave within the limits of their own growth and experience. Forgive and move on.
Do it for yourself, not for them. ...Click 'Read More' for the other two things...
Brilliant TED Talk on how to:
CREATE LASTING POSITIVE CHANGE
It has been proven that if you take these actions daily you change your mindset. You will feel more positive and with a more positive mindset it is easier to see solutions, direct your attention to optimistic thoughts. With this you will feel more encouraged and motivated.
No harm in trying these steps out for one month. How about for December?
by Suzie Doscher,
As Henry Ford so wisely stated: "If you think you can, or cannot - either way you are right".
In other words if you think and therefore believe something to be true, then it is your truth.
If you are not quite 'the person you want to be,' then it pays off to find out if it is a thought (belief) holding you back.
The thought could be anything from 'I do not know how,' 'I do not have any support,' 'I do not know where to start,' 'I am uncertain about this,' etc. ... Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher
The reason I feel this way is my opinion that in order to think positive, a positive mindset is necessary. Naturally even positive thinkers can have moments of drifting off into negative thoughts. Their strength is to return to a more positive approach rather than go the place of doom and gloom of a negative thinker.
To ‘Just think positive’ it is necessary to have a positive mindset.
When you are struggling to stay positive about something, you are probably feeling stressed. This might be the result of feeling uncertain or lacking clarity about the situation, person or project, or any number of other reasons. So when I hear that the advice given by a helpful, supportive friend or colleague was ‘Just think positive’, I want to ask: “And exactly how do you suggest your friend or colleague does this while feeling stressed?” Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher
Learning how to respond to a situation rather than reacting brings huge rewards. Needless to say, it is one of those behaviour changes that are easier said than done. However, it can be achieved.
Being able to respond to /act upon means you are in a mindful place - a place where you are aware of your thoughts and feelings. This means you have considered the situation and the response that best suits you.
To be able to 'respond' means you are choosing your behaviour .
To 'react' indicates that a button has been pushed – something triggered you not to take the time to think and consider your response. This can often leave you in a position at the mercy of others. ...Click 'Read More' below
By Suzie Doscher, Professional Executive and Life Coach Zurich
How about going out for a sail, swim, drink, run, meet friends, play with your children, talk to your partner - without your head still being full of work related information?
First of all it helps to remember and accept as an important truth is: Your work is only part of your life.
It is wonderful if you love what you do and have passion for your work, but do not forget that your personal life is at least as important as your work. ... Click 'Read More' below
By Mathias Jakobsen
Being a leader is a big, complicated job. Even with years of practice, there are new teams to figure out, new challenges to overcome, new techniques to apply.
And yet a lot of people are still promoted to positions of leadership because they perform well as individual contributors.
But should someone who is a great writer be promoted to manage a whole staff of writers because she is great at writing? Should someone who is good at financial analysis be expected to lead an entire team based on his skill as an analyst? Why would we assume that doing one job well predicts success in an entirely different capacity? ...Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher, Professional Life and Executive Coach
I have witnessed all too often with friends, family, clients, and in my own life, how easy it is to go in circles or bang your head against the same wall when you try to get something done. It feels like you are blocked. You keep ending up in the same place, repeating the same patterns.
A coaching client of mine never quite achieved the goals he set for himself. Despite taking proactive steps, he still ended up going around in circles. On one level, he believed in the success of his project. Yet deep down inside, a little voice kept repeating, “What is the point? You will not succeed anyway." ...Click 'Read More' below