by Suzie Doscher
The reason I feel this way is my opinion that in order to think positive, a positive mindset is necessary. Naturally even positive thinkers can have moments of drifting off into negative thoughts. Their strength is to return to a more positive approach rather than go the place of doom and gloom of a negative thinker.
To ‘Just think positive’ it is necessary to have a positive mindset.
When you are struggling to stay positive about something, you are probably feeling stressed. This might be the result of feeling uncertain or lacking clarity about the situation, person or project, or any number of other reasons. So when I hear that the advice given by a helpful, supportive friend or colleague was ‘Just think positive’, I want to ask: “And exactly how do you suggest your friend or colleague does this while feeling stressed?” Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher
Learning how to respond to a situation rather than reacting brings huge rewards. Needless to say, it is one of those behaviour changes that are easier said than done. However, it can be achieved.
Being able to respond to /act upon means you are in a mindful place - a place where you are aware of your thoughts and feelings. This means you have considered the situation and the response that best suits you.
To be able to 'respond' means you are choosing your behaviour .
To 'react' indicates that a button has been pushed – something triggered you not to take the time to think and consider your response. This can often leave you in a position at the mercy of others. ...Click 'Read More' below
By Suzie Doscher, Professional Executive and Life Coach Zurich
How about going out for a sail, swim, drink, run, meet friends, play with your children, talk to your partner - without your head still being full of work related information?
First of all it helps to remember and accept as an important truth is: Your work is only part of your life.
It is wonderful if you love what you do and have passion for your work, but do not forget that your personal life is at least as important as your work. ... Click 'Read More' below
By Mathias Jakobsen
Being a leader is a big, complicated job. Even with years of practice, there are new teams to figure out, new challenges to overcome, new techniques to apply.
And yet a lot of people are still promoted to positions of leadership because they perform well as individual contributors.
But should someone who is a great writer be promoted to manage a whole staff of writers because she is great at writing? Should someone who is good at financial analysis be expected to lead an entire team based on his skill as an analyst? Why would we assume that doing one job well predicts success in an entirely different capacity? ...Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher, Professional Life and Executive Coach
I have witnessed all too often with friends, family, clients, and in my own life, how easy it is to go in circles or bang your head against the same wall when you try to get something done. It feels like you are blocked. You keep ending up in the same place, repeating the same patterns.
A coaching client of mine never quite achieved the goals he set for himself. Despite taking proactive steps, he still ended up going around in circles. On one level, he believed in the success of his project. Yet deep down inside, a little voice kept repeating, “What is the point? You will not succeed anyway." ...Click 'Read More' below
Wonderful that 'creativity' has moved up the list and 'emotional intelligence' added :)
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
In the list above, one can see which work skills were important in 2015 and what's changed for 2020. One notable change is that Emotional Intelligence is #6 on the skills list for 2020 and was not even on the list in 2015! Why is Emotional Intelligence now on the list?
Simple. Emotional Intelligence affects almost everything we do. It applies both to the understanding of ourselves and how we understand others.It's crucial to both People Management and Coordinating with Others (#4 and #5 on the 2020 list).
If you have Emotional Intelligence, you are attuned to your own feelings and can empathize with others on the basis of this. Understanding your own feelings enables you to recognize and interpret emotions in others, seeing how these emotions enter into your behaviour and attitudes. Emotional Intelligence also means that you can act on your perceptions in a productive manner.
Change management has become increasingly important for companies. For successful and sustained changes, coaching and training are essential and understanding Emotional Intelligence is a big part of it as change management is based on the emotional intelligence skills (soft skills) of the whole workforce.
The soft skills that make up Emotional Intelligence can be developed through learning the appropriate life skills and applying them at work.
How Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence Makes You More Effective at Work
The level of Emotional Intelligence (also called EQ) can be the difference between a merely good business-person and a successful one. What we mean by “successful” in this case is one who is confident, strong, emphatic, effective, productive, inspiring, and efficient at managing time and stress levels. Such a person will feel and be truly comfortable at work.
Today the concept of EQ is having a strong impact on the business and corporate world. It is now accepted that a well-developed EQ allows a manager or team member to restrain less productive feelings and focus on his or her goals with more positive feelings. Such a person will be a self-confident, open communicator who inspires other people. Anger, self-doubt and stress will not be in evidence.
Emotional Intelligence is defined as having the ability to recognize and understand emotions and their impact on behaviour and attitudes, especially in others. Those who have a high degree of Emotional Intelligence are able to understand their own feelings and thus tune into how others are feeling. The result is that they can act on their perceptions in a truly productive manner.
Having Emotional Intelligence includes possessing a level of awareness in the areas of: self-management, self-esteem, motivational skills, empathy, interaction skills, self-confidence, relationship management, stress management, time management, and emotional self-awareness.
Your EQ affects almost everything you do. For example, if you work in a solitary setting, the quality of your work is determined by your self-esteem and self-confidence. Both help to keep you motivated and inspired.
Studies have show that CEO’s make many of their decisions intuitively, mainly because in this fast-moving world there is not enough time to wait for all the facts. Thus a leader’s best thinking and decision-making is grounded as much in their EQ as their IQ. There is significant evidence that the skills a person with a high EQ brings to bear have a significant impact on organizational performance.
The good news is that whilst the IQ is relatively fixed, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can be developed. For this reason, more and more companies are hiring life coaches to improve the standard of their management by increasing the EQ of their leaders and first-time managers. An organization that fails to recognize the need for Emotional Intelligence in its culture does so at its own peril.
by Suzie Doscher
(excerpt from 'Balance - A Practical Handbook for Life's Difficult Moments')
by Suzie Doscher
With the daily work schedules these days it is important to learn how to treat yourself to some neutral ‘me time’. Otherwise, you might find that your body will force you to take some time by having the flu, a sore throat or simply feeling exhausted all the time.
If you do not already know how to take a little time for yourself, you can only gain by learning how to schedule some.
Be patient as you learn to make this a priority. You might have to start with only five minutes per day or every other day until slowly you carve out more time for yourself.
Bear in mind that all changes take time and are only possible if you choose small steps that can realistically fit into an already busy day. If you find yourself slipping up, then remember, “tomorrow is a new day.”