What To Do Instead of Complaining -- Five Steps to Giving Feedback That Can Change Things
By Susan Begeman Steiner
When it is time to give difficult feedback to someone, most of us would rather run in the other direction. Even in the best of situations, it is a challenge to give feedback in a way that makes a difference and does not ruin your day -- and theirs.
Here are 5 simple steps to take when it is time to give someone difficult feedback:
1. Prepare ahead of time.
2. State your observation. Describe the incident and be specific about the behavior that you are addressing.
3. Tell what happened as a result of his behavior, including how it affected you personally.
4. Ask for the person’s views about your observation, outcome and/or assumptions. Then LISTEN.
5. Ask for what you want different in the future.
As hard as it might be to confront a problem by giving feedback, remember that until you address the situation and ask for something different, you are part of the problem, not part of the solution. Good luck!
By Louise L. Hay (excerpt from You Can Heal Your Life)
Begin to recognize prosperity everywhere and rejoice in it. Reverend Ike, the well- known evangelist in New York City, remembers as a poor preacher he used to walk by good restaurants and homes and automobiles and clothing establishments and say out loud, “That’s for me, that’s for me.“
Allow fancy homes and banks and fine stores and showrooms of all sorts – and yachts – to give you pleasure. Recognize that all this is part of your abundance, and you are increasing your consciousness to partake of these things if you desire. If you see well-dressed people, think, “Isn’t it wonderful that they have so much abundance? There is plenty for all of us.“
We don’t want somebody else’s good. We want to have our own good.
And yet we do not own anything. We only use possessions for a period of time until they pass on to someone else. Sometimes a possession may stay in a family for a few generations, but eventually it will pass on. There is a natural rhythm and flow of life. Things come, and things go. I believe that when something goes, it is only to make room for something new and better.
Self-Help Book / Personal Development