by Suzie Doscher "Change is Inevitable, Progress Optional" - Tony Robbins Change is not easy or simple. If you have been told you should change but are not really convinced this is true, you are more likely to fail at completing the process. You stand a better chance if want, and are motivated, to change something. This could be a behaviour pattern, how you react, a communication style or how you view the world to name a few examples. Change can only really take place if you are ready to take action. Research shows 90% of the strategies designed for change assume people are ready to take action. In reality only 20% of the people already involved in some process of change are actually ready to take action. This helps explain why so many attempts to keep New Year's resolutions, lose weight, change behaviour, etc. are doomed to failure. The most successful way to approach changing a behaviour pattern is to:
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By Mayra Jimenez
If you believe you were born to be an entrepreneur, you may have envisioned greatness in your future many times. You may have been an audience member during an iconic figure's speech and thought, "That could be me." You may believe you hold the key to the next revolutionary idea, and that one day, the world will know. The secret to achieving great success is telling your story effectively. A good story changes everything. Here's what I've learned from some great storytellers: Go deep Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. Whether you're crafting your elevator pitch or a detailed presentation, talk about your passions and your dreams. People like stories that come from the heart. When your audience understands why you founded your business, and the direction you want it to take, they are more likely to remember it. Add power with a social element The stories that resonate the most include a socially-conscious end goal that benefits others. Many consumers are more likely to purchase your products if they know it's for a good cause. Others may like to see a story going full circle. This is a theme common to companies as different as Tom's shoes or Microsoft. Rewind. And Repeat One of the biggest lessons I learned as an entrepreneur is not to be afraid of repetition. Leave the modesty aside, and tell people what your story is. You may think everyone's heard it, but you never know who might hold the key to a life-changing partnership, or a piece of information that could change your life and business. If you truly believe in your idea, your story must be great. Become a great storyteller, and everybody will believe in it. by SaiBlackbyrn Lately I have been reading a lot of articles online from various blogs. I believe that the only way one can keep their mind sharp is by constantly exercising it. Even though I read a lot of valuable content the following 5 articles stood out in various ways. If you are looking for some inspiration or you are simply looking to read some great content, this is the list for you. So check it out, and I hope that you share this article with your friends so that they get know more about these wonderful people. In no particular order: Christine Rose Elle: 5 Things Nobody Tells You About Being A Life Coach Hillary Rubin: What I Love And Don’t Love About Coaching Suzie Doscher: Stuck? Self-Critical? Fear of Change? – Explore Your Self-Esteem Pieter Scholtz: Work-Life Balance: A Journey, Not A Quick Fix Dr. Rakish Rana: Would Becoming Super Rich Make You Happy? I was able to get something valuable from each of these articles…and I hope you do as well. If you have gained something from this list then do share it with your friends. Cheers! by Suzie Doscher
First of all, you are reading this article which shows that on some level you are curious. You might be interested in the topic or maybe have a colleague or friend who is working on personal development with a coach already. Or maybe you are increasingly aware of an issue or behaviour pattern you are now willing to change. Coaching Scenarios:
Consider coaching if you are:
The next steps might be:
The investment: Money:
It is important to know the difference between all the various approaches to change, see my article Coaching vs. Trainings / Consulting / Mentoring / Traditional Therapies for more information. By Susan Begeman Steiner
Awareness is the parent of change. For example, when you are driving and aware that there is not a car coming up in the lane next to you (in your "blind spot"), you can choose to change lanes safely. In your personal life, if you are aware that a behavior of yours is keeping you from getting what you want, you can choose to change that behavior. But without awareness, you simply have no choice, because you cannot see. You might pull into the next lane blindly and hit a car or continue acting in ways that are not in your best interest. How can we learn to see what we cannot see in order to increase our personal awareness? "Blind Spot" Remedy Simple – Pay attention to the feedback you naturally get from others. Ask them for more information and consider what they say, instead of dismissing it or justifying your behavior. More Difficult - Ask people you trust for specific feedback. This can be a scary thing to do. It takes courage to actually ask and sincerely desire an honest answer. Zen Master – Be open to the feedback you get from people, but also the feedback you get from your life experiences. When something goes wrong, be bold enough to consider why this is happening to you and what there is for you to learn. Point the finger back at yourself. The attitude is that whatever is happening is for your growth and development. Learn from everything you can and keep growing. Blind spots, once remedied, are opportunities to grow. At the very least you will have more information about yourself and how others perceive you. You alone can decide what changes to make based on the feedback you get. The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance. -- Nathaniel Branden By Suzie Doscher
The Dalai Lama made a wonderful comment about anger. He suggested that anger blocks the part of the brain that allows us to distinguish the difference between right and wrong. Reality is lost in moments of anger, therefore making us blind to what is actually going on. The same can be said about other emotions that have the power to disrupt your daily life. Anger usually manages to creep through most emotions and find its way to the surface. Somewhere inside of the emotions that have the power to overwhelm, upset, and throw your life out of balance you will most probably find some anger, if only a hint. The Dalai Lama further stated: to deal with our problems we need to be practical and realistic. If we are to be realistic, we need to use our human intelligence properly, meaning we need a calm mind. When your life feels like it is a mess and you are ready to take some action there are many different approaches to take. (Support from a professional or wise friend, mediation, spiritual beliefs, sometimes even just taking a “time out” holiday can help.) Find the one that suits your personality and lifestyle best. At this point you are hoping to be calmer. This will allow your mind to be more realistic again. You are more likely to stay on track with making the necessary changes with a realistic mind. These suggestions are one of many approaches you could take that might be helpful:
An excerpt from Suzie Doscher's book: BALANCE - A PRACTICAL HANDBOOK FOR LIFE'S DIFFICULT MOMENTS. Suzie's NEW book BALANCE - Interactive Workbook for Self-Coaching is now available if you do not have the time or inclination to work with a professional life coach. Get started on your own, in your own time. Narrow down what you want to change with the help of the workbook. |
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