An assumption is a thought or conclusion drawn when someone says or does something. It is a reaction. You do not have the full picture or asked any questions yet to be able to make an informed decision. Conclusions are often based on assumptions which could be incorrect. They are not backed up by fact yet treated as the truth.
Assumptions have the potential to confuse a situation, and everyone involved. For example, silence or nodding does not always mean the person agrees. They could be simply acknowledging they heard you. They might not agree yet in that moment are not ready to comment.
You cannot know if what you are assuming is the truth unless you ask questions to get more information and clarification. Listen carefully and ask questions if you are not sure or need further information to form an opinion.
The brain is wired to keep you safe and fulfill your core needs such as nutrition, shelter, community, pleasure, reproduction, and emotional expression. This establishes an idea of where you are, who and what is around you, and where you might encounter danger. Also known as the ‘fight or flight mode’ which is essential in times of danger - it keeps you at the first level of awareness.
At times however you react to protect your emotions from pain as if you are needing to protect yourself physically from danger. The anxiety and physiological response are the same despite the situation being an emotional one. The mind is simply looking for information to complete the picture and return to a place of emotional safety. Assumptions satisfy your questioning mind but do not leave you with the full picture.
Once you are aware that you are making assumptions it is possible to change the behavior.
To train your brain to stop making assumptions:
By Suzie Doscher, Executive and Life Coach focusing on Personal Development, Self-help Author
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