Brilliant TED Talk on how to: CREATE LASTING POSITIVE CHANGE It has been proven that if you take these actions daily you change your mindset. You will feel more positive and with a more positive mindset it is easier to see solutions, direct your attention to optimistic thoughts. With this you will feel more encouraged and motivated.
No harm in trying these steps out for one month. How about for December? Suzie Doscher
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As Henry Ford so wisely stated: "If you think you can, or cannot - either way you are right". In other words if you think and therefore believe something to be true, then it is your truth.
If you are not quite 'the person you want to be,' then it pays off to find out if it is a thought (belief) holding you back. The thought could be anything from 'I do not know how,' 'I do not have any support,' 'I do not know where to start,' 'I am uncertain about this,' etc. ... Click 'Read More' below by Suzie Doscher
The reason I feel this way is my opinion that in order to think positive, a positive mindset is necessary. Naturally even positive thinkers can have moments of drifting off into negative thoughts. Their strength is to return to a more positive approach rather than go the place of doom and gloom of a negative thinker. To ‘Just think positive’ it is necessary to have a positive mindset. When you are struggling to stay positive about something, you are probably feeling stressed. This might be the result of feeling uncertain or lacking clarity about the situation, person or project, or any number of other reasons. So when I hear that the advice given by a helpful, supportive friend or colleague was ‘Just think positive’, I want to ask: “And exactly how do you suggest your friend or colleague does this while feeling stressed?” Click 'Read More' below by Suzie Doscher
Learning how to respond to a situation rather than reacting brings huge rewards. Needless to say, it is one of those behaviour changes that are easier said than done. However, it can be achieved. Being able to respond to /act upon means you are in a mindful place - a place where you are aware of your thoughts and feelings. This means you have considered the situation and the response that best suits you. To be able to 'respond' means you are choosing your behaviour . To 'react' indicates that a button has been pushed – something triggered you not to take the time to think and consider your response. This can often leave you in a position at the mercy of others. ...Click 'Read More' below By Suzie Doscher, Professional Executive and Life Coach Zurich
How about going out for a sail, swim, drink, run, meet friends, play with your children, talk to your partner - without your head still being full of work related information? First of all it helps to remember and accept as an important truth is: Your work is only part of your life. It is wonderful if you love what you do and have passion for your work, but do not forget that your personal life is at least as important as your work. ... Click 'Read More' below by Suzie Doscher, Professional Life and Executive Coach
I have witnessed all too often with friends, family, clients, and in my own life, how easy it is to go in circles or bang your head against the same wall when you try to get something done. It feels like you are blocked. You keep ending up in the same place, repeating the same patterns. A coaching client of mine never quite achieved the goals he set for himself. Despite taking proactive steps, he still ended up going around in circles. On one level, he believed in the success of his project. Yet deep down inside, a little voice kept repeating, “What is the point? You will not succeed anyway." ...Click 'Read More' below What Is Emotional Intelligence?In the list above, one can see which work skills were important in 2015 and what's changed for 2020. One notable change is that Emotional Intelligence is #6 on the skills list for 2020 and was not even on the list in 2015! Why is Emotional Intelligence now on the list?
Simple. Emotional Intelligence affects almost everything we do. It applies both to the understanding of ourselves and how we understand others.It's crucial to both People Management and Coordinating with Others (#4 and #5 on the 2020 list). If you have Emotional Intelligence, you are attuned to your own feelings and can empathize with others on the basis of this. Understanding your own feelings enables you to recognize and interpret emotions in others, seeing how these emotions enter into your behaviour and attitudes. Emotional Intelligence also means that you can act on your perceptions in a productive manner. Change management has become increasingly important for companies. For successful and sustained changes, coaching and training are essential and understanding Emotional Intelligence is a big part of it as change management is based on the emotional intelligence skills (soft skills) of the whole workforce. The soft skills that make up Emotional Intelligence can be developed through learning the appropriate life skills and applying them at work. by Suzie Doscher With the daily work schedules these days it is important to learn how to treat yourself to some neutral ‘me time’. Otherwise, you might find that your body will force you to take some time by having the flu, a sore throat or simply feeling exhausted all the time. If you do not already know how to take a little time for yourself, you can only gain by learning how to schedule some. Be patient as you learn to make this a priority. You might have to start with only five minutes per day or every other day until slowly you carve out more time for yourself.
Bear in mind that all changes take time and are only possible if you choose small steps that can realistically fit into an already busy day. If you find yourself slipping up, then remember, “tomorrow is a new day.”
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Based on my professional and personal experiences relating to Personal Growth and Development I found that there are a number of issues everybody faces at one point or another. Becoming aware of and acquiring the life skill to handle the difficult moments makes a huge difference to the quality of your day-to-day life. Having certain life skills and knowing when to reach for one can be compared to knowing that the toothbrush is used to clean your teeth. If you want to be more selective what you say ‘yes’ to, means learning how to say ‘no’. By choosing to behave differently, together with practice and repetition, the brain will rewire itself – neuroscience has proven this. For a more balanced and consequently better quality of life it is worth looking into which life skills your ‘tool kit’ needs acquiring or upgrading. Also, know that maintenance is of the utmost importance - just because you took one bath does not mean you never have to take another one! |
In my coaching practice I like to take care of the ‘housekeeping’ before my client and I focus on achieving the goal they came to coaching for. By ‘housekeeping’ I mean finding out if certain skills are already in place, need exploring, upgrading or acquiring. To name a few:
In coaching once the basic life skills are in place and being maintained we move on to focus on the goal and forward.
BALANCE – A Practical Handbook for Life’s Difficult Moments is the result of wanting everybody to have access to learn these skills without necessarily having to work with a coach, or as my clients tell me ‘they refer to the book when they need a ‘top up’.
Have a ‘Look Inside’ on Amazon and see if it might be useful for you.
- Saying ‘No’
- Allowing yourself to take some ‘me time’
- Or knowing how to schedule time to think away from technology
- Having a grip on time management
- Understanding what to do in a stressful moment
- Being comfortable with asking for help
- Comfortable to communicate
- Knowing your Core Values
- Knowing that change involves practice and repetition! In time the brain rewires itself (you get rid of the ‘virus in the software’)
- Upgrading your social / interpersonal skills
- Enhancing your Self-Esteem / Self-Confidence
- Etc.
In coaching once the basic life skills are in place and being maintained we move on to focus on the goal and forward.
BALANCE – A Practical Handbook for Life’s Difficult Moments is the result of wanting everybody to have access to learn these skills without necessarily having to work with a coach, or as my clients tell me ‘they refer to the book when they need a ‘top up’.
Have a ‘Look Inside’ on Amazon and see if it might be useful for you.
by Suzie Doscher
Eckhart Tolle refers to living in the “Now”, which means being able to see and feel what your life is in the present moment. If you are standing in a beautiful park or by a calming body of water, it is possible to actually see the trees, feel the flow and energy of the water, instead of being lost in your thoughts. These thoughts will put you into an entirely different location even if you are not there physically.
After all, almost everyone would agree that the present moment, the “Now”, is all we have. In light of all the sad unpredictable events going on in the world right now this is even more relevant.
Eckhart Tolle refers to living in the “Now”, which means being able to see and feel what your life is in the present moment. If you are standing in a beautiful park or by a calming body of water, it is possible to actually see the trees, feel the flow and energy of the water, instead of being lost in your thoughts. These thoughts will put you into an entirely different location even if you are not there physically.
After all, almost everyone would agree that the present moment, the “Now”, is all we have. In light of all the sad unpredictable events going on in the world right now this is even more relevant.
It seems odd that we do not just naturally live in the “Now”
Most people do not live in the “Now” and have to learn how to do so. This involves not only being able to see the trees but also keep the focus on what you can influence today and in the moment. If it is in the future or the past it is actually not relevant to the moment. When you concentrate more on the present, life becomes more relaxed and enjoyable. This becomes a powerful technique to step out of stress.
Here are steps to take to “being in the moment”:
Our minds tend to take us to places and times that are not real. They might have been real a few hours ago. By mastering the art of living in the moment, you are taking good care and being very kind to yourself. That alone should make it worth the effort.
Here are steps to take to “being in the moment”:
- Realize and accept that you are free to choose in each and every moment – not only what you do, but also what you think. This awareness is the first, and often the hardest, step to integrate into daily life. It is, however, an important truth.
- Become aware of where your thoughts are taking you.
- Find a way, a little trick or an image that will support you in breaking your thoughts right now.
Some people imagine putting their thoughts into a cloud that is passing by, or into a boat that they then push away from shore, really negative thoughts can be placed into a building that you then blow up! Another way is to pinch yourself or turn in a circle a few times. Anything that will snap you out of your thoughts. Find something that suits your personality.
Our minds tend to take us to places and times that are not real. They might have been real a few hours ago. By mastering the art of living in the moment, you are taking good care and being very kind to yourself. That alone should make it worth the effort.