By Suzie Doscher
Being subjected to passive aggressive behaviour from anybody -- be this in a shop, at home, in school or at work -- can be not only confusing, but also hurtful and uncomfortable.
Frequently this behaviour and manner of speaking come from someone who has not learned how to express emotions, let alone negative ones. Instead of being in touch with their feelings, they redirect these emotions in a passive aggressive manner. Usually the person is not even aware of it.
Obviously this is a generalization and in no way should be thought of as the truth for everybody who behaves passive aggressively. Sometimes people are just having a bad day and letting it out with inconsiderate and disrespectful manners.
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Many cultures teach from a young age to suppress negative feelings, some even encourage to suppress all feelings and hide behind extreme politeness! Think of the famous ‘stiff upper lip.’ Not allowing feelings to surface, as well as not expressing emotions can lead to passive aggressive behaviour. We are emotional beings; we all have emotions even if we do not always like what we are feeling.
Here are some helpful tips to consider:
The negative emotions that lead to passive aggressive behaviour are, in fact, offering an opportunity to grow and change. If you find yourself behaving a little passive aggressive, see it as an opportunity to grow. This is a time when you can engage a life coach, a good book or the wisdom of a close friend.
In conclusion, although passive aggressive people are not pleasant to deal with, there are actions you can take to not allow this behaviour to drain you.
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