By Suzie Doscher
"Life is difficult, the sooner we accept this, the easier it gets." That is the way the saying goes. Once we truly accept that life is difficult, we have automatically put ourselves into a place of more strength. It is all about knowing how to help ourselves in those difficult moments. During those times, the main objective is to get back to some kind of calm/strength as soon as possible.
There are times when a little self pity can go a long way…and maybe we just need a little pity! At some point, however, we are well-advised to take charge again. Five of my favourite tools that support taking charge again are below. Sometimes it is as simple as just remembering these things.
1. Where there is a will, there IS a way.
We CAN find the time to think about what to do and how to help the situation, if we really want to.
2. We always have CHOICE in the matter.
There are two responses to every situation: a negative (disempowering) one or a positive (empowering) one. It is up to us to choose!
3. It IS possible to "reprogram" how we see things.
With reframing, using positive affirmations, shedding self-imposed limits (also known as limiting beliefs), taking better care of ourselves (as opposed to everybody else first…), we can make changes.
4. We cannot change people, but we can change how we REACT to them.
Accept and take a much closer look at what you can control and influence. In this case it is your own behaviour and reactions.
5. ONE STEP AT A TIME gets us up the ladder.
This is the Old Faithful approach: breaking a problem down into smaller steps, then taking one step at a time. This allows us to live in the present day, not in the past or future. I only deal with what CAN be dealt with and thereby avoiding being overwhelmed.
This small selection of tools will serve you through almost any difficulty.
Which one you pick is up to you in the moment.
“If you try you may fail, if you don't try you're guaranteed to fail” --Jesse Jackson