by Suzie Doscher
Change is not easy, nor simple. If you have been told you should change but are not really convinced that this is true, you are more likely to fail at completing the process. Personally I recognize the process to be complete when I no longer remember ‘what I was like before’. Someone still in denial about the need to change will not get very far. Chances are there will always be excuses in the form of: I do not have the time for this right now, I am busy, I already know how to…, it is not my fault, you do not understand, ‘a leopard cannot change its spots’, I am too old…etc.
Change can only really happen if you are ready to take action. Research shows 90% of the strategies designed for change assume people are ready to take action. In reality only 20% of the people already involved in some process of change are actually ready to take action. This helps explain why so many attempts to keep New Year's resolutions, lose weight, change behaviours, etc, are doomed to failure.
It is most helpful and supportive and will increase your chances of successfully completing a change if you can engage the help of a friend or life coach. They will help you by being totally honest, motivate, encourage and in general offer the kind of support you will benefit from. Specifically how to offer this support varies from individual to individual so make sure you communicate clearly how you need them to be.
The most successful way to approach changing a behavior pattern is to:
“If you believe you can, or cannot – you are right”