“Challenges in life either do or do not have solutions.
If there is a solution somewhere,
then there is no need to be overwhelmed by the challenge.
If there genuinely is no solution,
then there is no point being overwhelmed by it."
If you genuinely believe there is a solution to every problem, there is a greater likelihood that you will find the solution. Personally, I believe the approach “where there is a will, there is a way.” I do not always find the way as soon as I would hope – which is sometimes due to a lack of motivation. I then remind myself that I know that nothing stays the same, and therefore I have nothing to fear. Things will change even if I do nothing.
Obviously, I might not get the outcome I had hoped for but then again, if I choose not to get myself motivated then that is my choice!
When I find myself lacking motivation, I either find someone to talk to and brainstorm, or I take the time pressure off myself and see what comes up on its own.
Sometimes it is not the right moment to deal with an issue, solve a work-related problem, make a change, or whatever the challenge is you might be facing. This does not mean you have given up on finding the solution. To me, this means I am not in the right frame of mind, nor am I in a strong enough emotional place or have enough time, to focus on resolving whatever requires attention.
Believing that you can find a solution to a problem gives you an advantage. This advantage is strength and personal power which means that you are more likely to overcome nearly all, if not all, the problems you are faced with. And sometimes the best solution is to walk away.
If an issue overwhelms me, I break it down into smaller pieces that I can cope with. For example, I had to read through a rather long, complicated contract . The only way I could cope with it, was to give myself permission to only read five pages in the morning then five pages in the afternoon. My solution was to break the reading down into smaller steps.
If you are fully convinced that a solution exists for every problem, then problems no longer feel like problems, instead they become tasks to deal with and may be regarded as projects that now need project management.
Your thinking makes a world of difference to what you achieve.
(an excerpt from the 1st edition of Balance - A Practical Handbook for Life's Difficult Moments.
by Suzie Doscher, Professional Coach since 2006, Self-help Author since 2014.
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