by Suzie Doscher
One of the main motivators not to settle for less is 'life is too short.' Time seems to be flying by faster and faster, all the more reason to make sure you are enjoying it. Equally make sure your life offers you a sense of fulfillment. Settling for less is something everybody does at some point or another, but it is best not to make it a lifestyle!
Find out what you want - from having experienced what you do not want!
Settling for less means you made the choice to limit yourself and your potential. This could be seen as a waste of time, however if you learn from it, your time was not wasted. You can figure out what to do differently.
Say you accepted a job offer mainly based on financial fears, but you knew deep down inside, you were compromising yourself. You had enough financial security to ride it out a bit longer, but not the courage to hold out for 'the right' job. It is difficult let a job offer go when you feel there is no other in sight. Fears can have a lot of power over your decisions. If on some deeper level, you knew this job was not really the right one - you might find you are living with the feeling of having undervalued yourself. Long term your heart and soul will let you know they do not appreciate the compromise!
Spiritually Thinking – The Bigger Picture!
To quote one of my favourite teachers, Caroline Myss: "Spiritually thinking; everything happens for a reason. We are able to learn from everything that happens to us. Both positive and negative occurrences are here to teach us something. If our path is to be true to ourselves and we live 'our' life, based on our values and our truths then everything that happens is happening to eventually lead us to our true life. There are no coincidences, again positive or negative. We can learn something from every thing."
Everybody knows the feeling of settling for less, at one time or another most people have experienced:
Staying in the Rut
Sometimes it is just easier to stay in a rut than find the courage to change something. It can be easier to settle than to step out of your comfort zone.
Settling for relationships that do not make you happy can often be the result of not wanting to be alone -- or any other type of fear that keeps you stuck.
If you suffer low Self Esteem, finding ways to increase it (be this with self-help literature, therapist or a life coach), will lead you to better decision making. You will begin to make decisions based on what you really want, not what the more ‘insecure self’ wants!
Reasons not to compromise yourself
Settling for less and knowing that deep down inside that you are making a compromise, makes life difficult. Difficult, because being in the wrong job, wrong relationship, and wrong anything does not make for a 'flowing,' fulfilling day-to-day life.
Believe it or not, consciously or unconsciously, this leads you to sabotage your own choices.
When something is right for you, synchronicity sets in - good things appear out of nowhere. Often being in the wrong place with the wrong people makes obstacles surface. However these obstacles are opportunities to learn.
Follow the path of successful people who have found the courage, to take risks (emotional or otherwise). You will witness that they value themselves enough to stay on the path to their ultimate goal.
"It is better to want what you do not have, than to have what you do not want"
Self-Help Book / Personal Development