by Suzie Doscher
Addressing the issue would bring clarity and awareness. And yet it is fascinating how quickly talking about a topic that, in fact, is hurting everybody in some way or another is avoided. The problem could be dealt with and a sense of clarity, peace, and calm could return. Yet the elephant, the sometimes very large elephant, is ignored and walked around, everyone trying to pretend that athe elephant does not actually exist.
Imagine you are in a situation with an elephant in the room. For example, let us say the issue is a miscommunication.:
By Chelsea Catlett
Smart ways to handle your next heated situation, shared by Nadia Lopez. She should know — she’s a school principal.
Nadia Lopez, founding principal of Mott Hall Bridges Academy, is no stranger to a challenge. When she opened the school in Brownsville, Brooklyn — one of the most underserved and violent neighborhoods in New York City — she did it with knowledge that it would be no easy task. “In challenging spaces, the greatest challenge is that we don’t know what’s causing the challenge — you can’t see it correctly, so you can’t ask the right questions,” says Lopez. Armed with a quiver of experience from her corporate and education backgrounds (she previously worked at Verizon and as a teacher in Fort Greene, Brooklyn), Lopez has faced innumerable obstacles with perseverance, grace and immutable passion. Here she shares some of her favorite ways to dial down conflict — applicable in situations far beyond the classroom.
By David DeSteno
In the midst of an intense negotiation, it’s hard to know what’s motivating the person across the table — is he willing to cooperate with you to meet both your interests or does he only want to serve his? You need to build trust with your counterpart so you can align your interests and increase the likelihood that he will honor his commitments.
A powerful way to establish trust is to employ one of the mind’s most basic mechanisms for determining loyalty: the perception of similarity. If you can make someone feel a link with you, his empathy for and willingness to cooperate with you will increase. Click below to read further....
Brilliant TED Talk on how to:
CREATE LASTING POSITIVE CHANGE
It has been proven that if you take these actions daily you change your mindset. You will feel more positive and with a more positive mindset it is easier to see solutions, direct your attention to optimistic thoughts. With this you will feel more encouraged and motivated.
No harm in trying these steps out for one month. How about for December?
By Davide Costella
REWARD. Just by reading this word, your memory can be stimulated to recall those experiences you have had linked to REWARD and a given thought or behavior can be triggered. This process is totally unconscious. The aim of this article is to raise your awareness about how you process rewards.
I recently went through a stimulating and successful period in my life where I achieved a number of milestones, one after the other. I enjoyed successes that were both private and business-related, some quite impactful, others slightly less.
During this time, there was one situation that had a strong emotional impact on me and triggered a totally different way of thinking about rewards. This particular project was a long and cumbersome one -- one of those projects where you give 150%, where personal reward is the real drive, not bonus or promotions.
My epiphany moment occurred when the project finally went live. Due to geographical distance, I was unable to celebrate with the rest of the team. Although I received some compliments, I did not feel completely rewarded. An emotional thunderstorm hit me and triggered various questions and some lessons learned about how we reward ourselves. See the points below. Before you read these points, remember that the actual definition of reward is: Something of value given in return for an act. ... Click 'Read More'...
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Widely acknowledged as a powerful development tool, coaching is used by an increasing number of organisations to develop the talent they need to meet their business strategy. Yet whilst phrases like coaching culture and leader as coach have entered common business language and the awareness of the benefits coaching can bring to business performance has grown, so too have the myths surrounding it.
Here we debunk five of the most common coaching myths we come across.
Myth 1: Coaching only suits, and is given to, very senior executives.
The reality: In a survey by Sherpa, just 30% of organisations reported they used coaching only for senior executives. Coaching can help with a number of business challenges; developing high potentials, supporting individuals who have been promoted into bigger roles, helping managers lead their team through change effectively, developing resiliency, accelerating the pace at which maternity leave returners get back up to speed, equipping first time managers with the skills to be effective leaders. As none of these business challenges are experienced only by those at the C-suite level, reserving coaching only for a select senior group is somewhat limiting. While the content may be different, all levels of employee, certainly all managers and leaders in an organisation, can benefit from a coaching approach to management. ...click 'Read More'
by Suzie Doscher
The reason I feel this way is my opinion that in order to think positive, a positive mindset is necessary. Naturally even positive thinkers can have moments of drifting off into negative thoughts. Their strength is to return to a more positive approach rather than go the place of doom and gloom of a negative thinker.
To ‘Just think positive’ it is necessary to have a positive mindset.
When you are struggling to stay positive about something, you are probably feeling stressed. This might be the result of feeling uncertain or lacking clarity about the situation, person or project, or any number of other reasons. So when I hear that the advice given by a helpful, supportive friend or colleague was ‘Just think positive’, I want to ask: “And exactly how do you suggest your friend or colleague does this while feeling stressed?” Click 'Read More' below
By Suzie Doscher, Professional Executive and Life Coach Zurich
How about going out for a sail, swim, drink, run, meet friends, play with your children, talk to your partner - without your head still being full of work related information?
First of all it helps to remember and accept as an important truth is: Your work is only part of your life.
It is wonderful if you love what you do and have passion for your work, but do not forget that your personal life is at least as important as your work. ... Click 'Read More' below
As Simon Sinek says: “There is no app for job satisfaction and strong relationships / friendships. These take time! Require patience! – Trust and open communication cannot happen when people have their mobiles with them ALL the time!
Hard habit to break but worth the quality of life you can gain.
Simon Sinek is always worth listening to gain clarity and understanding.
Many wonderful insights in this video.
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