by Suzie Doscher

Emotional Intelligence can be defined as having: 

• Self-awareness
• Self-regulation
• Motivation

• Empathy
• Social Skills
  
  

I like to think in terms of feeling a sense of power - Personal Power means you have the soft skills that make up Emotional Intelligence.

I believe your Personal Power is intact when you:

by Suzie Doscher

Addressing the issue would bring clarity and awareness. And yet it is fascinating how quickly talking about a topic that, in fact, is hurting everybody in some way or another is avoided. The problem could be dealt with and a sense of clarity, peace, and calm could return. Yet the elephant, the sometimes very large elephant, is ignored and walked around, everyone trying to pretend that athe elephant does not actually exist.
 
Imagine you are in a situation with an elephant in the room. For example, let us say the issue is a miscommunication.:

BY MALISSA CLARK - 3 MINUTE READ

When I tell people that I study workaholism for a living, I’m usually bombarded by suggestions of subjects I could do a case study on. It seems that everyone can think of at least one person in their lives that they’d label a workaholic–or, perhaps, they identify as a workaholic themselves.
The definition of workaholism has expanded over the years to include motivational, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral components–but understanding why you’re overworking can help you unlock ways to deal with it.

A BRIEF TAXONOMY OF WORKAHOLISM
These are a few of the leading causes of overwork:

• Motivational: Workaholics are different from people who are simply highly engaged in their jobs. They don’t enjoy their work; they feel compelled to work because of internal pressures. In other words, they work because they feel like they should or ought to be working.
• Cognitive: Workaholics have persistent thoughts about work when they’re not working, and they find it difficult to mentally disengage from work.
• Emotional: Workaholics experience negative emotions like anxiety and guilt when they aren’t working.
• Behavioral: Workaholics tend to work beyond what is reasonably expected of them by their organization.

As this breakdown makes clear, all these forms of workaholism can be triggered and exacerbated by different factors: internal needs, external factors, underlying personality traits, and more.

posted by Suzie Doscher

The Rules for Being Human

1. You will receive a body.
   You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around.
2. You will learn lessons.
   You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called LIFE.  Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.  You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
   Growth is a process of trial and error…experimentation.  The ‘failed’ experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately ‘works’.
4. A lesson is repeated until learned.
   A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end.
   There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons.  If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
6. ‘There’ is not better than ‘Here’
   When your ‘there’ has become a ‘here’, you will simply obtain another ‘there’ that will again look better than ‘here’.
7. Others are merely mirrors of you.
   You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you.
   You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie inside of you.
   The answer to Life’s questions lie inside you.  All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
10. You will forget all of this. 
    
11. You can remember it whenever you want. 

 
By Cherie Scott Carter
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By Suzie Doscher
 
Being subjected to passive aggressive behaviour from anybody -- be this in a shop, at home, in school or at work -- can be not only confusing, but also hurtful and uncomfortable.
Frequently this behaviour and manner of speaking come from someone who has not learned how to express emotions, let alone negative ones. Instead of being in touch with their feelings, they redirect these emotions in a passive aggressive manner. Usually the person is not even aware of it.
Obviously this is a generalization and in no way should be thought of as the truth for everybody who behaves passive aggressively. Sometimes people are just having a bad day and letting it out with inconsiderate and disrespectful manners.
Common characteristics of passive aggressive people: ...click 'read more'

 By Suzie Doscher
 
Instead of focusing on classic New Year's Resolutions:

• Exercise more, or start to exercise
• Lose Weight
• Stop smoking, drink less alcohol, drink more water
• Get organized
• Find more time for family and yourself, etc.

How about looking at 2018 as being the year of moving forward and making the kind of changes that stick forever?
 
Change your thinking in order to invest your time and energy to grow and develop yourself. Have a major impact on your home life as well as your professional life, no matter what your position is -- boss, leader or team member -- with some personal development.
 
Many of your desired 'resolutions' will be resolved with this approach. 
In fact, with time all of the habits you wish to change will be replaced with habits that leave you calm, satisfied, fulfilled, stimulated, energized and healthy. You will feel better, look better and be a better person. You can 'grow into your skin' - be the person you know you are. ...Click 'read more'

Good advice from Laura Berman Fortgang

I have no tax advice for you. Nothing you should do to your lawn before the next season hits. Nor do I have anything to say about your frequent flier miles or doctor visits and insurance deductibles.
I DO however, have three must-do’s that will help you walk into a new year with more energy, peace, and hope.

REPAIR a Relationship
Nobody is perfect. Maybe there is someone you are on the outs with or someone who is holding a grudge against you. There is no better time than the present to address it. Think of the possibilities of a new year without the stress or aggravation of this energy drain.
Perhaps there is such a relationship, but a heart to heart is just not possible. In that case, forgiveness is the only option. Whether you can speak to the person about it or not, work on forgiving what they did to you. If they are mad about something you did, forgive them for withholding their friendship, love, or approval of you.
People behave within the limits of their own growth and experience. Forgive and move on.
Do it for yourself, not for them. ...Click 'Read More' for the other two things...

by Suzie Doscher

The reason I feel this way is my opinion that in order to think positive, a positive mindset is necessary. Naturally even positive thinkers can have moments of drifting off into negative thoughts. Their strength is to return to a more positive approach rather than go the place of doom and gloom of a negative thinker.
 
To ‘Just think positive’ it is necessary to have a positive mindset.
 
When you are struggling to stay positive about something, you are probably feeling stressed. This might be the result of feeling uncertain or lacking clarity about the situation, person or project, or any number of other reasons. So when I hear that the advice given by a helpful, supportive friend or colleague was ‘Just think positive’, I want to ask: “And exactly how do you suggest your friend or colleague does this while feeling stressed?”  Click 'Read More' below